Consider this your go-to list for questions and answers about homemaking.
Not only will it answer important questions about homemaking itself but it will help you understand why people CHOOSE this lifestyle.
I think that far too often we snub the thought of fulltime homemaking. You know, thinking it’s for lazy, uneducated or unmotivated women who likely have a rich husband. But, after I quit my fulltime corporate job and wound up becoming a full-time homemaker myself, I realized just how wrong that that thinking is.
My goal in writing this post is to help promote understanding and appreciation for those who choose to focus on home and family full time through homemaking. And I also hope that in a world where we tell people they can be anything they want to be, we stop discrediting the meaningful work of home and family.
13 Frequently Asked Questions about Homemaking
1. What is a homemaker?
A homemaker is someone who runs a household. This includes the mechanics of keeping everything up and running (bills, errands, chores, etc.) and also creating an environment that is loving and nurturing to family and friends.
There is no set amount of time you have to spend on home and family to be considered a homemaker. Even if you don’t like Pinterest and aren’t a fun/crafty/energetic person, any effort you put in to keeping your household afloat and the people in it happy is considered homemaking.
2. Who can be a homemaker?
Anyone with a home can be a homemaker. It doesn’t what your gender is, how old you are, or what your marital status is. You can live with your family, roommates or even alone. Literally ANYONE can be a homemaker (though I’d suspect most homemakers are adults…let me know if you have a kid super into cleaning & organizing!!! Haha.).
3. What are the requirements for homemaking?
There aren’t any set requirements for homemaking. You can rent or own your house and your family can be large or small – you set your own rules. Whatever running a household means to you is what your homemaking journey will consist of.
4. Is homemaking a full-time thing?
Yes! And no! The beautiful thing about homemaking is that you can turn it into whatever works for you.
I think homemaking sometimes gets viewed only as having someone at home full time focused on household and family management. If this is your case, great!
But, it’s not the case for you, you can still be a homemaker. It doesn’t matter if you work part or full time, have to hire a house cleaner to stay sane or can’t pull off anything but a burnt meal – any effort you put into running your household and creating a welcoming home environment is considered homemaking.
5. Do you have to have kids to be a homemaker?
Nope! While I do think it’s important to do what you can to raise kids in a loving, nurturing home, the value of a strong home doesn’t decrease if there aren’t children living in it.
Homemaking can be beneficial to marriage and relationships and it can provide support and love to extended family and friends. And, just as importantly, a solid home life can serve as a solid foundation for YOUR personal growth.
6. How much money do you make as a homemaker?
Unless you’re a professional homemaker (for someone else’s household), being a homemaker doesn’t typically pay. So how do you figure out the financial side of things?
Most full-time homemakers have a partner that works full time to provide for the financial side of things.
But, if you don’t have a partner working full time (or a bunch of savings and investments) and you really want to be a full time homemaker, you may be able to help out the financial side of things by getting a side hustle or work from home job.
You should also consider that while homemakers don’t make a salary, there are some household savings to expect when someone is a full-time homemaker.
For example, when I became a full-time homemaker we no longer had to pay for dog walking or transit passes and we started saving money by eating at home more. I also didn’t have to buy clothes as often (my dress pants always seemed to wear out quick) and my makeup bill went down significantly (I only wear makeup 2 – 3 times a week now and I LOVE it!!). This is easily a few hundred dollars per month in savings.
So, although our monthly income did decrease, so did our monthly expenses.
7. What exactly do homemakers do all day?
Well, it’s different from person to person but generally it’s anything that benefits the household or the people in it. Check out our post on 10 things homemakers do all day. It’s a little less sippin on mimosas and more hard work than you’d think.
8. How do you become a homemaker?
You become a homemaker by investing in your household, yourself and the people you share it with.
While this may come more naturally to some, it is also something you can learn through practice. For example, if you want to start focusing on your household through preparing healthy meals but aren’t a great cook, try some local cooking classes.
Or, if you aren’t sure of everything that needs cleaning in a house (and how to clean it), look up some helpful information online. You get the idea! There’s no special requirement to become a homemaker, just start!
9. How do I know if being a full-time homemaker is right for me?
This is a deeply personal question and one that will require a lot of thought on your end.
I personally made the leap to being a full-time homemaker because I wanted to improve my well-being and my marriage. AND because I find fulfillment in focusing on my home and family.
But, this decision was not made lightly. We had to review finances, decide if and how we could afford it and come up with fall back plans if it gets to a point where full time homemaking isn’t financially feasible.
While I can’t tell you whether or not it’s right for your situation, I do suggest doing your homework and including your partner as you figure out this decision.
10. Do people actually choose to be a homemaker?
Yes! Homemaking is often a conscious choice made for the benefit of the family unit (including the actual person doing the homemaking). And, this decision often comes with sacrifices.
This means that sometimes people with good careers become homemakers knowing that their disposable income will drop significantly. Sometimes people choose homemaking over a job in order to improve their family life. And sometimes people become homemakers because it makes them happy.
Homemaking can provide a lot of fulfillment and sense of purpose.
11. What are the benefits of homemaking?
I truly believe that having a strong and happy household is the foundation for meaningful, happy lives. And, when thoughtful effort goes into homemaking, it can create fulfilled and happy people.
It doesn’t matter if you do it full time or part time, any time spent enriching your home and the people in it has positive impact.
12. If I’m a full-time homemaker am I the only one responsible for household duties?
Not in my world! Even though I’m home fulltime and my husband works fulltime, I’m not the only one responsible for the household. While I do ensure the bills are paid and inherently do the lion’s share of the housework, my husband still helps clean up after a meal and prep when company is coming.
He understands that carrying some of the load at home supports my role as a homemaker and shows respect to the effort I put in for our family. (Just like how I support his work through helping with taxes, booking travel, etc. as my way of showing respect to him for his household contributions.)
In fact, I believe that including everyone living in the home in some aspect of its upkeep improves family relationships and respect toward each other.
13. If I become a homemaker is that all I can do?
No! Just because you are a homemaker doesn’t mean that’s all you are or what defines you (though you can let it help define you and that’s not a bad thing!!).
Being a homemaker does not mean you’re pigeon-holed into only that aspect of life. You can, and should, work to develop yourself in other ways too. What is something you like doing but haven’t done in a while? Do that!
Join a club that makes you happy, learn a new talent or take an interesting class. Take some time for yourself week to focus on your growth as a person. You can’t help other people grow if your tank isn’t full.
If you’re not sure where to start, I’ve found that this self care practice helps!
Do you understand homemaking better?
After going through these 13 Q and As what was your take away? Let us know in the comments below. Are there any other questions you have that weren’t answered above? Comment below!